E mohio ana tatou katoa, a ko te nuinga o nga wahine kaore e rongo ana kaore e taea e te pakaru o tetahi whanaungatanga te mahi me te kore whakaaro me nga manawa. Ko te tikanga, he wa kaore i tino angitu te pakiwaitara i tae mai ki tana tukunga, i roto i taua keehi ka taea e koe te wheako i te awhina. Engari he aha te mahi i roto i tetahi waahi kaore koe i te mea i whakaaro koe ehara i te mea, a kaore i whakaarohia he wehewehe ki tetahi tangata nana i whakaatu te kaupapa me te "whakahoki". I konei ka tino whakaaro koe ki te pehea te utu mo te hoa aroha o mua, kotahi, mo te katoa, i ako ai, i te wa ano e kaha ana "ki te patu i ou pakau"? Well, ki te he koe i te hiahia ki te utu, na tenei tuhinga mo koutou!
Ka whakatata atu ki te mahere o te utu
Na, i whakatau koe ki te rapu utu i runga i to ex-chevalier: i hea e timata ai tatou? He ngawari te whakautu: i mua i te whiunga utu mo te hoa aroha o mua, me mahara koe mo te hiahia tonu koe. Whakatauhia mehemea he "nui" te tangata nei ki a koe, e hiahia ana ranei koe ki te rapu utu mo to hoa-hoa mo te mea kei te whakahaerehia e koe e te manawa? Ki te mahi i tenei, me tino whakapumautia koe me te whakaaro nui ki te take i whakawhanakehia, ki te pouri nui, kaua ki a koe ake. Whakamātauria ki te whakaaro kua utua e koe mo to hoa aroha. Kua whakaatuhia? Nui! Na, ka ui koe ki a koe ano, na te ahua o tenei ahuatanga e pai ai te hari me te pai? Mena kei te whakamamae koe i nga raruraru mehemea he whakaaro nui koe ki te mahi, me pai ake koe ki te whakatakoto i to maatau utu mo te utu utu mo muri mai: he mea tino kaore i te wa kaore koe e whai take ki te utu, engari kaore koe e hiahia ki te whakamoti i to wa waahi e whakaaro ana mo tenei tangata .
I te ara, he mea tino nui tenei i roto i tenei ahua ki te whakahaere i te whakamatautau whaiaro i to ratou tohu o te hara i roto i te mea i tupu. Mena ka whakamahi ia ia koe, ka huna ana i tana mana tangata, na, ka mohio koe. A, mehemea, i te mea kua timata koe i to pukapuka me te tane marena ranei, kei roto ranei i te hononga a te whanau, ka ngana ki te mohio ki a koe ano me nga mahi i mahia e koe.
Mahere mo te utu
Kei te hiahia koe ki te utu i to hoa kia makahia koe - kia tino whakamahere (maahi te taahiraa ma te taahiraa) i nga mahi katoa e whai ake nei. Me tino tautuhi i nga putanga katoa o to "utu". Ko te kōwhiringa i tohua e koe, kaore he take hei whakaatu i te tangata ki te raruraru, ina koa mo nga tamariki iti (mehemea koinei te take mo te tangata). Hei tauira, ki te whakatau koe ki te korero ki to hoa (tawhito hou) to aroha o mua mo ana mea whakamatautau ki te whakatuwhera i ona kanohi ki tona tuanga, i tenei take, ko te wahine tuatahi, ka mamae, kaore te "tangata aroha" ia ia ano.
"He kaha taku utu!"
Ko te huarahi pai ki te utu i te hoa aroha o mua ko te takaro i ona ngoikoretanga. I te ara, ko wai, me pehea ka mohio ai koe ki a ratau! Hei tauira, he tangata tino pai i roto i te ora - he aha e kore ai koe e whakapataritari ki a ia ki te whakapehapeha nui? Ko te tikanga, kaore matou e tuku ana i nga korero kino me te kino kino ki te taonga, engari e tino taunaki ana matou kia whakaakona to raatau mohio me o raatau. Ko te whakamahere pono me te ngawari ka awhina i te putea o te putea o te waahanga o mua.
Na me pehea koe i te putanga o te ingoa kino o te ex-chevalier? I konei ko te mahi pai, hei tauira, ko nga whakaahua o te ihirangi taatai i tukuna ki ana hoa, he ingoa uiui i runga i tona ingoa i runga i te pae taatai, he waea pakiwaitara mai i te reanga tawhito, me etahi atu. Ko te mea nui - ki te whakaatu i to whakaaro, ka maka i te rota o nga whiringa.
Na, ko te mea whakamutunga, ngana ki te pouri o to hoa o mua ki te ngaro ia koe. Hurihia to kāhua, whakahou i ō kākahu, tango whakaahua ataahua, ka tuku ki a Ipurangi. Whakaritea he tangata hou, he hoapene hou, ka haere ki te hararei. I te wa o te huihuinga ohorere ki a koe, ka tino pouri to hoa aroha ki a koe kaore koe e noho tahi ana. Na ka taea e koe te oaoa i te ora hou!