Ka taea e koe te whakamutu i a ratau ina whakamahi i te korero tuatahi i whakaahuahia, kaore e aro ki enei "nga kaiwhakamahara", kaore e hiahia ana kia pai koe, engari mai i nga mea e kite ana i te mahi me te kore e mahi, me pehea te korero mo to oranga ake. Ko te kore e wareware ki nga whakawhitinga korero e kore e hiahiatia e koe ko te toi pono, ka ngana ki te kati i nga taringa maeneene mai i enei moemoeke kino, kaore he mea e tika ana ki te ahuatanga pono. Na, me kii noa koe ki runga ake i enei koikoi me te mahi i au ake mahi, me to oranga ake i waho o te mahi. Na ka kore he korero ki a ratou. A, ki te kore e mahi i taua huarahi, ataata ataata ki nga kaitohutohu, ka mawehe atu ia ratou, e korero ana ki te mahi. Ko te kapa wahine, mehemea kaore ratou e kite i te whanaketanga o nga whanaungatanga, ka marie, ka rite ki te puia, mehemea kaore i te wera mai i raro iho, kaore ano kia horo. A, ki te mea he iti noa iho o raatau, ka koha ki a koe te karaka. Kaore he take e taea ai e koe te tu atu i tetahi korero whakapae, kanga ki a ratou, mutu nga korero katoa, kaore he huarahi ki waho, ka nui ake te korero, ka timata ki te matapaki he aha koe i mataku ai.
Kati te korero mo te korero mo te aroha i roto i te mahi, i to maatau taitamariki. e tu ana mo to whanaungatanga. No te mea kua mate ia ki te whakarongo i ia wa ia koe, he aha te riri o to hoa i enei hoa mahi. Kaore ano tenei i te waahanga, ko enei tangata kino ka whakaoti, engari ka taea hoki te korero mo koe e mohio ana. Ko te mea pai rawa, kaua e korero ki to taitamariki he aha mo tenei, me mahi koe ki te ahuatanga, ko te mea he wahine ano koe, ka pai ake te mohio ki a koe ki te whakamutu i au kaiwhakatakoto whakaaro.
Ko te kōwhiringa pai mō te katoa, ko te whakamaori i to hiahia me te "hiahia" ki te awhina i tetahi. E hiahia ana ratou ki te painga ki te hunga katoa e aroha ana. He nui o ratou wheako, a kahore ratou e mohio ki hea e hoatu ai, ko wai e tuku. Na me tika te kimi i tetahi atu mate mo o raatau korero, mai i te kapa kotahi kua pahure ake nei koe. E mea ana koe, ehara i te mea tikanga, engari, kaore he huarahi ke atu. Kia mahara tetahi o ratou he arotake nui, ina tae mai koe, ka mahi. a ka titiro atu koe ki a koe me te mea kei te whakahiatohia he x-ray. He aha tou huru? me pehea koe? Ma te kore e kite, ko nga peke kei raro i nga kanohi, ka tino pai, a, i te tina, ka raruraru koe i nga rongo, mo to whakaaro he porangi porangi. Na, whakaarohia te wahi hei whakawhiti i to raatau kaitiaki ki runga ia koe, whiriwhiri i te mate me te mahi. A ka noho marie ia ki tana korero aroha, he tawhiti atu i te kohukohu me te roopu wahine.