Na, whakaarohia enei waahanga me nga tikanga maatau, he utu ki nga kaiwhakakautau. Mena kei te pai tetahi o ratou ki a koe, kia tupato - mehemea kua pa atu koe ki te tangata tinihanga, ki te kaitoi putea ranei.
Tuhinga o mua
1. Te mau fafauraa e te mau fafauraa (e faaohipahia te mau mea atoa, tae noa'tu i te fafauraa ia faaipoipohia, ia ite i te mau metua).
2. Whakamahia te kupu "aroha". Ko te tangata ka whakahirahira i te kotiro ki te tata, ka korero ki a ia "Whakaatuhia mai ki ahau to aroha, ka awhina i to tatou aroha ki te tupu, ki te puawai," me etahi atu.
3. Ko te tangata e whakaatu ana he mea tika kia tirohia tetahi ki tetahi mo te taunekeneke. I te whakatutuki i te whanaungatanga, ka ngaro ia.
4. Te tono ki te aroha. "Kia aroha ki a au, kaore koe e aro, engari ka pai au, ka mutu taku whakamamae i te moepuku." Te tuatahi o nga mea katoa, whakaaehia koe kaore koe e whakaaro!
5. Te whakawehi: "Kaore koe e whakaroa - ka kitea e au tetahi atu."
6. He kēmu o te whakaaro whaiaro: "Ki te kore koe e haere, kaore koe i rite ki era atu katoa, ehara i te mea hou, ehara i te mea noa."
Whakautuhia ō pātai
Ka tutaki koe ki tetahi taitama e akiaki ana ia koe ki nga whanaungatanga pai, ko koe, e nga kotiro, uiui penei:
Pehea tana mahi ki a au?
Kia pehea te nui o tana mohio ki te whakahaere ia ia ano?
He aha tana mohio me tana mahi i roto i te mara o te whanaungatanga?
Kei te hiahia ia ki te whakaheke me te nui o ona whakaaro?
E tino korero ana ia i tana whakaaro?
Ka wehewehea e ia te hononga ki a au ki te mea kaore ahau i rite mo te whanaungatanga?
He aha tana mahi ina ka hapu ahau?
He aha nga tikanga me nga tikanga mo te tiaki, ki te korero ahau, ka whakamahia, ka whakamahia ranei?
E tino hiahia ana ahau ki tenei, a ko taku ake hiahia nui ki a ia?
Kei te mohio ratau ki a ratau, kei te pai ratau ki a ratau ano, me te kore he ira?
Kia mohio ki te korero "no"
Mena kei te ngaro koe ki te whakautu i enei patai, kaua e wehi ki te korero he "pakeke". Ko te "kore", he kaha, he tino kaha, me te kore whakaari, me te whakapaha.
"Kaore ahau e hiahia ana, a he mea nui tenei kaore he whanaungatanga."
"Kaore, ka kino ahau ki ta ratou e akiaki ana ki te mahi i tetahi mea."
"Kaore, kaore au i te rite mo tenei."
"Kaore, ka tino wehi ahau." (Kia rite ki tenei keehi mo tenei ahua o te tohe: "Kaua e wehi, ka pai nga mea katoa", "Me inu ki te okioki", ki te whakatoi ranei: "Little", "Kindergarten - pants on the straps"),
"Nama" A ka taea e koe te moe ki te tangata e kore e hiahia ana? "
"Kahore, kei te tere koe ki ahau, kaore au i mohio i ahau ka rite ahau mo taua mea." (Kaua e awhina ki nga whakaeke penei: "Kia pehea te roa e tatari ai ahau, e mauiui ana ahau, kahore koe e aroha ki a au")
"Kahore, kaore ano ahau kia tino maia ki a koe." (Ki te urupare, kia rite mo te ahua o tenei urupare: "Aue, ko te aha!" Na, kaore i waenganui i a maatau. "Ka taea e tenei te taakaro i te tumanako kaore e tu te kotiro ka whakaae.) Kaua e wehi ki te wehewehe ki taua tangata.
"Kahore, whakaaro ahau me tatari ahau ki tenei kia tae noa ki taku marena." (Hei whakautu, ka taea e koe te rongo "Kei te rite koe ki te tamaiti, ehara i te mea hou", "E tika ana kia taki tetahi ki tetahi moenga")
"Kaore, kaore ahau e hiahia ana, a, ki te kaha koe ki te mahi i tenei, he tutu."
"Nama" Kaore au e whakaaro ana. " "Kaore, kei te whakaaro koe ka mahue ahau ki te kore e pai."
"Kahore, kaua e whakaaro kino ki a koe."
"Kaore, ko au mahi e whakaae mai ki a au kaore au e mohio ana ia koe."
Ka taea e koe te tu ake ki a koe, kaua hoki koe e whakapohehe kia kore ai te haereere o tenei kaiparau me te hiku whakapehapeha e haere ki roto ki nga ngakau o nga kotiro taitamariki me nga kuware!