Na, ki te tuku tetahi tangata ki te whakatau: he aha te whakautu, e whakaaro ana koe?
Mehemea ko tenei hoa ko to hoa , a, ki te:
a) E hiahia ana koe ki te whakaae, ka whakaarohia he mea e karangatia ana koe e tetahi hoa hoa, hoa hoa, hoa mahi ranei i te mahi. Me pehea koe? He pono kua kata ia, ka mea: "Ae, o te akoranga. I hea me te wa? ". I tenei take, kaore he taatai i te korero, ki te kore e kaha ake to whanaunga ki te mahana, ki te hoahoa.
b) Ki te tuku tetahi tangata ki te whakatau , a ka hiahia koe ki te whakakore - whakauruhia to whakakore kia rite ki te pai, kia kore ai e hara ki te tangata. Te ataata me te ki: "Ka aroha ahau, engari kaore e taea. Mahalo ko e taimi hono hokó? ". Mena ka tono tonu te tangata ki a koe me te ngana ki te kimi i te wa tika o to hui, engari kaore koe e hiahia ki te whakatutuki i tenei kaupapa i runga i te kaupapa, me whakautu me te kupu o te whakatauki: "I te wa e tika ana, ka mohio ahau."
Mena kua tukuna koe ki te whakatau i tetahi tangata mohio i roto i te horopaki ahuareka , a ko koe:
a) E hiahia ana koe ki te whakaae - tohaina ki a ia he iti, he reo whakapehapeha e mea ana, "Ae, ka tino pai au ki te kai tahi me koe", te whakapai ake i ona kanohi, i te poto, te painga ki a ia, me te whakamataku ki te hui me te nui o te manawanui. Ehara i te mea he hara, engari, ka tutaki koe, ka taea e koe te whakatau mehemea ka taea e te tangata te hono atu.
b) Ki te hiahia koe ki te whakakore, kia mohio tonu koe kaore koe e hiahia ana i tetahi whanaungatanga i waenganui ia koe. Mea atu: "E mohio ana koe, pea, kaore e angitu, ka murua e koe. He tangata pai koe, engari ka taea e au anake te tuku ki a koe hei hoa, kaore ano. "
Ki te tuku mai te tangata o mua ki te whakatau ia koe me te korerorero hoa , a ko koe:
a) E hiahia ana koe ki te whakaae - na kaua e whakamahara ki a ia mo to whanaungatanga o mua. Whakaaetia ia hei hoa pai rawa, e mohio ana ia ki a koe, a he maha nga mea e pa ana ki a koe. I tenei wa, ka pai ake koe ki te whakahoki i to whakaaro. Me marama koe ki a koe, kia mohio koe ki te mea kua rite koe mo te houhanga. I muri i nga mea katoa, ko te tangata o mua - he toronga nui tenei mo koe, no te mea he uaua, ko nga kotiro, he wehewehenga. I tua atu, me tino mohio e hiahia ana to hoa ki te whanaungatanga tino pai. Kaua e hohoro ki te whakautu, engari me whakamatau kia kitea he aha tana e hiahia ai. Kei a koe etahi hoa e noho tahi ana, ma wai e whakarato ki a koe nga korero e tika ana.
b) Ki te hiahia koe ki te whakakore, korero ki a ia e kore e taea e koe te hoa, he pai ake kia noho tonu koe, e ki ana kaore koe e huna i te kino ki runga ki a ia, engari kei a koe he hoa nui, kei a koe he mahara pai ki a koe i mua, a kahore i tenei wa.
Mena ka tono mai tetahi tangata o mua ki a koe ki te hui huihui, me koe:
a) E hiahia ana koe ki te whakaae - (whakaarohia te whakahoahoatanga o te whanaungatanga), ka mahi kia hiahia koe ki a koe, whakaatu ki a ia mo te wa i wahia ai koe i te waahi, kua hoki mai to ora ki te mea noa, a kaore e taea e koe te tu i te waahi me te tuarua o nga wa. Ki te hiahia a ia ki te hoki mai ia koe, ka mahi ia i nga mea katoa ki a koe kia whakapono ki a ia.
b) Ki te hiahia koe ki te whakahe, korero ki a ia kei te whakaute koe ki a ia, kei te mauruuru koe mo nga mea pai katoa i mahia e koe, engari kei te haere tonu to oranga, kei te hiahia koe ki te hanga whanaungatanga me etahi atu. A ani ia ia kia noho hoa, engari kaore.
Mena ka tono mai tetahi tangata e kore e mohio ki a koe ki te hui huinga , a ko koe:
a) Whakaarohia - ka titiro tuatahi ki te tangata ke. Kei te korero pinepine nga wahine ki a tatou ko wai ka taea te whakawhirinaki me te kore e taea. Mena ko te ono o nga tikanga ka korero ki a koe kei te tika nga mea katoa, ka tutaki ia ia me te whakarite i te waahi me te wa o te hui.
b) Whakaaro ki te whakarereke - me tuku noa iho. Kaore he tohu, he whakaheke, he pena ano. Mea atu: "Kahore he whakawhetai." Ki te hiahia tetahi tangata ki te whakawhitiwhiti whakaaro me te kore atu, ka mohio ia ki nga mea katoa.
Mena kei te tono tetahi taiohi e mohiotia ana ki a koe ki te hui huihui , me koe:
a) Kia rite ki te whakaae - me te tuatahi, kitea he aha tona ingoa. Whakaritea ki te whakarite i tetahi hui ki te rua - ka tono kia haere mai me tetahi hoa, ka haere mai me te hoa wahine, whiriwhiri i te wa me te wa o te hui. Mena ka raru tetahi mea, ka awhina i a koe te waatea, me te hui i roto i to rohe ka whakawhirinaki koe ki te mea he raruraru kore. Aue, i to wa wa e wehi ana nga tangata ke ki te whakawhirinaki.
b) E pai ana au ki te whakahe - korero tika. Me whakapono he taitamariki kei a koe, ki te kore koe e whai. Kaua e hoatu tau nama waea, kaua hoki e tohu i tetahi mea. Mena kaore he tangata e mohio ana - waiho noa iho.
Mena kua tuku atu to tamaiti ki a koe i te hui i roto i tetahi taangata aroha, a ko koe:
a) Ko te tikanga, me whakaae koe - whakawhetai ki a ia mo te awangawanga, me te rapu i te wahi e haere ana koe, a, ki te mea he mea whakamataku, kitea i te iti rawa te waehere kakahu, te kawe ranei ia koe ki te wharekai, a kei roto koe i te T-shirt me nga putea haehae, ara hoahoa.
b) Kaore e taea e koe te haere, engari e wehi ana koe ki te whakapouri - kihi ia, korero etahi mea ahuareka, pehea koe e aroha ana ki a ia, mihi me te tono kia mutu te hui. Ko te mea nui - kaua e teka ki a ia, no te mea he take pai taau, no reira e kore e taea e koe te haere i te ra i tana wa e hiahia ana. Ko te whakawhirinaki te mea tino nui i roto i te hononga.
Engari kia mohio koe ko enei anake etahi o nga mea e pa ana ki a koe, me whakaarohia, me whakaaro: ki te tuku mai te tangata ki te whakatau, he aha te whakautu? Whakaaro i te tuatahi, o to hinengaro, kaua e mahi i nga mea e kore e hiahiatia e koe, kaua e tutaki ki te hunga e kore e hiahia ana koe, a kaua e whakapono ki tetahi kaore koe e hiahia ana. Mena ka tukuna koe ki te whakatau, ka taea anake e koe te whakatau. Whakaarohia mehemea e hiahia ana koe ki te whakawhitiwhiti korero ki tetahi tangata ano he hoa, he mea nui ranei ki a koe anake me te tohu o te hononga, me te hiahia koe ki te korero ki a ia. Kia mahara kei te waihanga i to taiao ake. He pai!