Me pēhea te urupare ki te wheako tawhito tuatahi o te tamahine?

Mahalo ko e ongo mātu'a kotoa pē'oku nau ongo'i'oku kei kei si'i pē'enau tamasi'i, ka'oku tupu hake'a e fānaú pea'i he taimi'e ni'ihi'oku'ikai ma'u'e he mātu'a kotoa pē'a e momeniti'i he taimi'oku liliu ai'enau'ofefiné ki ha fefine E hiahia ana ahau ki te whakahaere i taku tamaiti, no te mea e kore au e hiahia kia mahia e ia he hapa nui, ka mamae. Na, kaore koe i mohio, kaore i tino mohio ko te taonga o taau tamahine i riro mai i tana wheako tawhito tuatahi. Me mohio koe kei te whanonga te tamahine, i a koe i whakaara ake ai ia ia.

He uiui he aha te mahi? Ko te katoa o te tau o te tamaiti, no te mea me 12-13 ona tau, he mea kotahi tenei, engari mehemea he 17 ia, he mea ke atu.

I a ratou e korero ana i te marino, ko te rongo anake.

Ko te mea tino nui ehara i te:

• Kia riri
• Karanga
• Kia whakama
• Kati te whare
  

Kua paahitia tenei, me whakahou koe me te whakaae ki nga mea katoa. Mena kei a koe he hononga whakawhirinaki ki taau tamahine, me awhina koe ki a ia me to tautoko, aroha, tohutohu, hei hoa mohio mo ia. Ka tino pai ki te taea e te whaea he hoa mohio ki te korero ki tana tamahine mo tana wheako tawhito tuatahi. I tenei take, kaore e taea e koe te haere ki nga korero katoa me te whakarite mo te mema ka taea e te tamahine te uiui. Ko nga tawai me nga tawai e taea te whakaheke i te haerenga a te tamahine mai i te kainga. Ko te kōwhiringa tino pai ko te waiho hei hoa pai mo taau tamahine, te mohio, te whakaae, te awhina me te aroha, me te kore e arai ia koe ki te whakatau i te kotiro me tana hoa (ahakoa kaore koe i pai ki tana whiriwhiri).

Me mohio nga matua ki a wai me te wahi e tutaki ai ta raua tamahine, mehemea kaore pea to raua hononga me ta raua tamahine e tu mai. Mena kaore koe e tuku atu i to tamahine i waho o te whare me te kati i tona kainga i muri i te kura, ka taea e tenei te whakaoho i te raruraru roa, e hua ai te whakamomori. Ma te ako e pā ana ki te wheako o te taangata tuatahi, he mea tika kia houhia te taha ki a ia me te ngana ki te whakapumautanga i tetahi hononga whakawhirinaki me tana tamahine, me tino mohio ia i roto i tetahi ahuatanga o te oranga ka taea e ia te tahuri ki te whaea, ki te wahine mohio kaore e homai he tohutohu pai, engari ano hoki ka tautoko.

Whakamāramatia ki to tamahine mehemea he tino aroha tana tamaiti ki a ia, ka kore ia e tohe ki te taangata, e hiahia ana koe ki te ako kia korero. Me hiahia noa tetahi tamahine ki te whakamarama i nga putanga katoa o te taatai ​​i mua i te marena. Me whakatau te tamaiti mo ona rohe whaimana, kaore ia e peka ke mo-mo te pai o tona aranga ake.

Ko etahi tohutohu e whai ake nei:

1. I muri i te ako e pā ana ki te wheako tawhito o taau tamahine, tīmata i te korero i roto i te ahua marino, me te mea e korero ana i runga i te kaupapa noa.
2. Ko te whakawhitinga kōrero me te kore he whakaako, he mea pakeke te tamaiti mo te wa roa ki te whakarongo.
3. I roto i to whakawhitinga korero, whakamaramatia ki a taau tamahine nga painga me nga raruraru o te taatai. Kia tupato ki nga meka o te koiora, karangahia nga mea ma o raatau ingoa.
4. Kaore e taea te korero nui mo te taangata mo te taangata o te tangata, no te mea kua ngaro te nuinga o nga korero i te mahara a te tamaiti.
5. Kaore he take hei whakawehi i te tamaiti ma te korero ki a ia mo nga mate urupare.
6. Mena ka uiui taau tamahine, engari kaore koe e mohio ana ki te whakautu, kaua e wehi ki te korero ki a ia. Ngana ki te rapu i ana whakautu ki ana whakautu katoa.
7. I muri i te whakawhitinga kōrero, me tiro koe mehemea kua tino mohio te tamaiti ki nga korero matua. Ko te tohu pai ko te tamaiti i muri i te whakawhitinga korero, he raru tonu nga korero.

Mena ka tupu te wheako tawhito o tetahi taiohi pakeke me te kore e mohio koe, ehara tenei i te mutunga o te ao. Waihoki, ko taau whainga matua ko te awhina i to tamaiti kia mohio ki nga raruraru o te taatai ​​i waenganui i te tane me te wahine, ka waiho hei hoa mohio e tautoko tonu ana, e awhina ana.