A, no te paanga o te patai: me pehea ki te korero ki nga matua mo te hapu, ka tino awhina te tohutohu a te tangata hinengaro. I muri i nga mea katoa, ko te nuinga o nga kotiro e hiahia ana mai i te kaimätai hinengaro e whai kiko ana i nga tohutohu me nga tohutohu taahiraa, e tumanako ana ka whakaotihia e te tohunga nga raruraru katoa ki te whiu kotahi o te pohehe makutu me te korero i te huarahi pai ki te mahi i tenei ahuatanga, a ka whakarongo ratou ki te tohutohu me te whai. Ko te mea pono, ehara i te mea pera, a ko te kaimätai hinengaro te mea tuatahi ko te tangata ka awhina ia koe ki te mohio, ka pana koe ki te whakatau. Ko te tikanga ki a koe ki te whakatau me pehea koe e hapai ai i tenei take.
Na reira, tuatahi, i muri i te ako mo te hapūtanga, whakaahuahia. Kia mohio koe he aha koe e whakaaro ana ki a koe, ahakoa kua rite koe ki te whanau hei whaea, ki te mea pea ka mate pea koe, ahakoa kua rite to hoa me nga matua mo to hapu, me te whakamatau i ta raatau mahi. Ko te whakaaro ki te pehea e haere tonu ai koe ki te mahi, he aha te mea ka tupu ki a koe ki te ako, ki te mahi ranei, ko wai e tiaki i te tamaiti, a kei te rite koe ki te whakaako ia ia. Te tātari i ngā āhuatanga katoa o tō hapūtanga, aromatawai i te āhuatanga me te whakarite i te mahere marama, mahere o au mahi, kia tino mohio ki a raatau. He pai ake te pai ki te korero koe ki ou matua, he mahere marama me te mahi, kaore koe e mohio ki nga mea e tatari ana ki a koe. Mena ka kitea he uaua ki te mohio ki a koe ano, ka taea e koe te tahuri ki te kaimatau hinengaro, kaore ranei, kaore pea e taea, ki tetahi pakeke e tino whakawhirinaki ana koe.
Mena kaore koe i te whanau, he pai te whanaungatanga, he pai te whanaungatanga a koe me tana hoa, e hiahia ana koe ki tenei tamaiti, kei te rite ki te whakatairanga ia ia, me te tiaki i te whanau kei te heke mai, engari kaore nga matua i rite mo to hapu, ka korero ki a raatau mahi motuhake. Mena kaore koe e hiahia ki te whakapataritari ia ratou, kaua e pohehe - ko to waahi me to whakatau koe, ki te mea kua rite koe mo tenei, me te maia i to hiahia, me tautoko ia koe. E hiahia ana ranei koe kia tatari ki te ono tau e whitu ranei, i te wa e maoa ai to whanaunga mo tenei taahiraa? Ma te whiriwhiringa ma to taau whiriwhiri, korero ki a ratou mo o mahere me o hiahia. Mahalo pea nau feaa'i ki ho'o malava ke poupou'i ha fāmili, pe'ikai ke nau mateuteu ki ha liliu peheé. Te whakamārama i te āhuatanga ki a ratou, ka tuhia i roto i nga meka pono ka pai nga mea katoa, me nga huringa ka haere noa mo te pai, korero mo nga painga o te ahua, o o hiahia. Kia mahara ko nga matua ehara i to hoariri, i noho i to ratau oranga, i te mohio ki a koe, i te tautoko tonu i te wa uaua.
Engari, mehemea kaore i te whakamaheretia te hapu? Mehemea kaore koe i rite mo tenei? Ka rite ki te korero i mua atu, ka mohio ki a ratau mahi hei whai ake me te whakarite i ta ratou mahere. Mena kua whakatau koe ki te pupuri i te hapu me te whakatipu i to tamaiti, ia koe ka whakatau i to whakatau, whakamahere me pehea e whiwhi ai koe i te ako, ko wai e tiaki i te tamaiti. Ka taea e koe te whakawhiti ki te puka reta o te ako, me te ako i te kainga - me te whakatutuki pai hoki i te whare wānanga. Ka awhina nga matua ki a koe ki te tiaki i te tamaiti, ako ia ia ki te ako, ko te mea nui ko to hiahia, ko te mana whaiaro, me te tikanga tawhito.
Kaua e wehi ki te korero ki o ou matua mo te hapu, he hoa pai koe, he tangata tata rawa hoki. Kaore tetahi e rite ana ki a ratau kaore e awhina ia koe i roto i te raruraru me te tamaiti. Ka waiho pea to rongo ki a ratou mo te take kei te manukanuka koe ki a koe me to wa a muri ake nei, a ka pawera pea koe i nga huringa i roto i to oranga, i to meake me te heke mai o to tamaiti. Kōrero ki a ratou kia pai, kia whiriwhiri i te wa tika, he maia, he whai hua hoki to korero. Te tohu i to raatau wehi me o raatauranga, ngana ki te whakamarama i mua i te huarahi mai i nga waahanga uaua e pa ana ki a koe, ki te whakarato ki a raatau te maatau me te whakaute. Kia rite ki te urupare rererangi, engari kia ngana ki te mohio ki o ou matua, me tuku koe ki to ratau turanga.
Whakarongo pai ki ta ratou tohutohu, ngana ki te whakahaere i te korero ki a ratau, ki te whakaoti tahi i nga raru katoa, kitea te huarahi pai rawa mai i tenei take. Kia mahara, ko ou matua nga hoa, ehara i te hoariri, a kaua e wehi ia ratou me a raatau taangata, kia ngana ki te mohio ki a ratau me te awhina ia ratou kia mohio ki a koe. Mena kaore koe e whakaae ki a raatau i etahi waa - korerohia ki a raatau he aha koe i whakaaro ai, na, i to whakaaro, ka pai ake, kaua e okioki i to whakaaro. Ko te whakapau kaha, te kawenga me te itoito, ko te mea tino nui, kia noho tonu ki a koe ano.
Me pehea ki te korero ki nga mātua mo to ratou hapu, he aha nga tohutohu matua o te kaimatau hinengaro? Ko te ture tino nui i konei ko te korero pono me te pono ki a ratou. Kaua e whakaaro mo etahi atu take mo te putanga o te take, he aha i puta mai ai, korero mai ko te mea. Mena kei te wehi koe ki tetahi mea, kaore koe e mohio ki etahi taipitopito, kaore koe e mohio ki etahi raruraru - kaore koe e wehi ki te uiui, me te whakautu i nga korero ki a raatau. Me whakawhirinaki koe ki ō mātua, me te tono ki a rātou mo te whakawhirinaki kotahi. Whakaatuhia e whakawhirinaki ana koe ki a ratau, me te korero pono koe ki a ratau, ko te mea tuatahi, ka whakaute koe ki a raatau. Ko te mea nui - kaua e wehi i tetahi mea, kia mohio hoki ki to whakatau, kaua e ngaro te tumanako mo te pai rawa me te mahara ka puta mai i tetahi waahi ka kitea he huarahi.