Nga kotiro me nga wahine katoa, ahakoa te pakeke, e hiahia ana ki te marena. Ko te raru tuatahi ko te kimi i te tangata tika mo te whanau. No te mea ko te hunga kino ki te marena e kore e pai, me te tangata e tu ana, he tino uaua ki te rapu.
Ko te raru tuarua ko te whakaora i te marena. Na ka kore noa e whakaora, engari kia hari i roto i te marena. Me pēhea te tiaki i te whakaute, te aroha me te hiahia ki te marena? Kia penei taau he kaitono mo nga tane, kaore ranei i timata koe ki te noho tahi, i te mea kua whakamanahia to whanaungatanga. Me pehea koe ki te whai i nga ture kia kaha ake ai te whanaungatanga o te whanau i roto i te wa, me te marena o to marena?
Ko te "pakeke" ki te ngakau - te whakahaere me te mohio
Ko te mea pono, he tino ngawari nga mea katoa. He mea tino nui kia ako te wahine ki te whakahaere i ona ngakau, kia kore ai e kitea tetahi korero o tana tane mo te taiao whānui mo tana tangata. Mena kaore koe e ako i tenei, ka raru koe i te wa katoa, a kaore tenei e tapiritia ki to koa. I mua i te mohio ki te whakautu ki te uinga o te tiaki i te whakaute, te aroha me te wawata ki te marena, titiro ki a koe ano me te mohio ki hea - - "to" taangata, me te wahi tino - kerēme.
He mea tino nui ki te tuku i te tangata ki a ia ano ko te rangatira o te take, ko te upoko o te whanau, na reira kaua tetahi e whakatau whakatau motuhake, ahakoa he mahere marama koe. Tukuna te mana ki te whakatau i to tane, mehemea he wahine mohio koe, arahina ia ki te whakatau tika, engari kia mahara te tangata ki te teitei o te whai waahi ki te arahi i te whanau. Kaore tenei ka awhina i te pupuri i te whakaute mo te aroha me te hiahia i roto i te marena, engari ka hoatu ano hoki ki a ia te kaha ki te haere tonu ki te whakatau i nga whakataunga nui mo te whanau. Ka hiahia koe ki te arahi ia ia ki enei whakataunga ngawari, a ko tenei anake te whakahoki tika ki te patai mo te whakahaere i te whakaute, te aroha, me te hiahia ki te marena.
Mena ka whakatau koe i te whakatau o nga raruraru a te whānau, kaore koe e mohio kua mutu te hiahia o to tane ki te whai whakaaro ki nga kaupapa o te whanau - a, kaore i raumatia e ia nga mea katoa, kaore ano hoki i pai ki a ia ano he mema nui o te whanau. He mea tika kia whakaara ake i te tangata mai i te tangata, kia kore ai ia e wehi ki te tango me te tango kawenga mo te whanau.
Te whakaute
He uinga tino nui - i te wa kua marenatia koe, i whakahonore koe i to tane? Ki taku whakaaro ko te whakautu he pai anake. He aha te ahua o te wahine ka marena i te tangata kaore ia e whakaute? Na, he aha i roto i te tukanga o te whanau o te whanau he maha nga wa e kore ai te tane e whakaarohia he tangata tino nui i roto i te whanau, ki te whakakore ia ia, ki te whakakore, ki te whakakore i te tane, he tohu e kore e whakahonorehia te tangata? Ka taea e te wahine te hari, te pupuri i te whakaute, te aroha me te hiahia ki te marena, mehemea kaore ia e whakaute ana i tana tane hei tangata, hei kaihoko, hoa? Te pakeke. Ko te whakaiti o tana tane, ka whakaiti koe ia koe i te tuatahi. Ko wai te hara, kaore e taea e koe te hoatu ki to tane tane, engari he mea whakahirahira? Kia mahara, ko nga mea katoa e hoatu ana e koe ki to tane, ka hoatu e koe ki to whanau, ko taau mahi tenei ki a koe ki te taonga pai o to whanau. Ako ki te hoatu i to tane ki a ia te aroha me te atawhai, a ka whakautu ano ia ki a koe.
Ko te tane te kaitiaki!
He mea tino nui kia mahara te tangata kia tiakina e tona hapu. Kaua e akiaki te tangata ki te mahi i tetahi mea, me te tawai ki a ia mo te kore mahi. E tika ana koe ki te whakaatu ki a ia i to ngoikoretanga, he aha nga mea e hiahiatia ana e koe i roto ia ia, kei roto ia ia, kaore i tana awhina. Ko te tangata te huru o te tangata e akiaki ana ia ia! Kaore e taea e koe te whakaatu i to kaha ki te tangata, ina koa he kaha ake koe ia ia. Kaore e taea e te tangata te tu i taua pakanga me te waiho i te whanau. Ko ia te kaiwhakararu, a, ko koe, tana wahine, me waiho i raro i tana awhina, no te mea e ngoikore ana matou me te hiahia.
Ko tenei ahuatanga o nga kaupapa ka taea e koe te pupuri i te whakaute o te tangata mo ia ano, me te aroha, te hiahia ki te marena. Ka tino pai ki te mohio koe ki nga hiahia o to tane, ki ana mea ahuareka, ki nga hiahia hoki. Na ehara i te mea kia mohio, engari kia whai whakaaro ki tenei taha o tona oranga. Kaore, ka whakaarohia e koe e kore koe e pai ki a ia, no te mea ko ana mea ahuareka kei te haere tonu. Ko koe, ko tana wahine, ko tana haere tonu.
Na konei, me mahara kia kaua tetahi e hiahia ana kia pai tonu tana mahi, na te wahine whakahirahira ka ngana ki te whakakore i te wahine kino.
Te whakaheke i te kai - te kai me te ira
Ehara tana tahu i te aroha anake, engari ki te aroha, e pa ana ki nga mahi o te kainga. Ko te wahine, kaore e taea e koe te whakakore i to hoa tane i roto i nga tikanga. Koinei anake te huarahi hei tiaki i te whakaute, te kotahitanga, te aroha me te hiahia ki te marena - me te kore e whakamahi i a raatau!
E kore e pai te tangata kia mau ki a ia i tenei mea. Mo ia, he tino nui te wahine! A, ki te arahina e koe ana mahi na roto i te taangata, kaore e tiakina e koe te aroha me te whakaute, ka waiho e koe i runga i te raruraru. Whakapono mai ki a au, he tangata e pouri ana, e hohoro ana te kite i te riri ki tera taha, kia noho motuhake i tenei take. He pai ake ki te piri ki te tūranga e whakararu ana i to tane ki te taatai, kei te kore koe e moe i te taha o te tane me te tangata, ko te tikanga kei te mahi kino koe ki to whanau katoa.
Ka taea e tatou te mahi me te kore tohutohu?
I muri ake, ka whai tamariki a to whanau. Ko te kawenga mo korua me taau tahu e maha ake nga wa. Kia mohio ia kei te kite koe me te painga ki a ia mo to koe whakaaro, kia mahara te tangata kia riro ia ia te toa, engari ka kaha ake tenei. Me uru tetahi tangata ki te whakatipu i nga tamariki, kaua hoki e raruraru. Kaore he tangata e tuku tohutohu, ka taea te whakaiti ia ia.
Ki te tohutohu he tika mo te tane, hei upoko o te whanau me to kai-whakawa. He mea tino nui kia taea e koe te korero ki to tahu, ko te korero te engine o to whanau mo te pai.
Kaua e wehi i nga totohe, kaua e mangere ki te tono mo te murunga me te kore e wehi ki te tuku - ko enei katoa e uru ana ki te whakawhanaketanga o nga whanaungatanga. Kaua e whakawerohia te riri ki te kino. Ko te tautohetohe ko te whakawhitiwhiti hua i waenganui i nga tangata whaitake e whai ana ki te whakatau i te whakatau, ki te pupuri i te whakaute, te aroha, me te wawata i roto i tetahi marena.
Ka whiriwhiri tatou, a kaua e whiriwhiri i a tatou!
Ko te tangata, e whakapono ana ahau, ehara i taku whakaaro anake kaore i whiriwhiria e nga tangata ia matou, engari ko ta matou wahine e whiriwhiri i a matou tane me te whiriwhiri i ta maatau tane. Ko te wahine kia whakaaro nui, kaore he wahine i whakaarohia he kaitiaki mo te kainga. Ka taea e te wahine anake te hanga i roto i te whanau te ahua o te hau e hiahia ana ia kia mohio ai ia mo tana tane hei taiepa kohatu, kia koa i te marena.